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Letting Go Can Be The Hardest Part But It’s Worth It

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Letting Go Can Be The Hardest Part…

Letting go means releasing of things, people and places that no longer serve you. Letting go means you are consciously making a decision that you do not want to be stuck in certain situations, people or relationships. Letting go is releasing anything that can hinder you from your certain goals, dreams or growth.

Letting go also means moving from any hardships, heartbreaks, past events, death, illness or situations. Letting go is good for you but sometimes, it just doesn’t feel good. It’s actually quite challenging and scary. Letting go takes time and effort. It takes courage or strength to move forward in your life.

Letting Go Can Be The Hardest Part But It’s Worth It

Letting Go Is Painful.

I’ve recently let go of someone. It is painful for me to let go because I know that there was love between us but sometimes, you have to let go because it’s more painful to hold on to someone who can’t express themselves to you.

You know that there was love. You know that it can be an eternal love but if it’s only bringing you down, no matter how much you have invested in the connection and no matter how painful it is for you, you need to let it go. 

What Does It Take To Let Go?

Letting go takes time and effort. It’s not something that can be decided overnight. We don’t want to feel any regrets from the things that we let go of. However, we also don’t want to hold on from any heartbreak or pain. It’s just that it takes time and effort because the thought of moving on is difficult and scary, especially if you have been in a relationship, whether it’s a job or love. 

Letting go takes courage because it’s scary to let go of something or someone you are already familiar with or comfortable to be with, something or someone you have already invested in, Sometimes, letting go is scary because we feel afraid of change or afraid of the unknown. You wouldn’t know what’s out there. You wouldn’t know what will happen to you if you choose to let go.

Letting go takes strength because it’s more painful to hold on to things, people or relationships that are holding you back. And only people who have the strength to let go can be able to move forward in life. 

Letting go also requires love. The love you have for other people that you have to let go of and the love for yourself. It’s not just you who thinks that you need to let go of. Sometimes, people around you or the people you love want to let go of you. 

How Letting Go Can Help You?

Letting go is good because it can help you grow to become a better person. It can help you become strong and resilient in the future. You can be able to decide the right things for you. You know what you want and you know what you need to stay in your life.

Letting go means you are releasing the things you can never control. You can be able to focus on new opportunities coming your way. Letting go means you are releasing any emotional, mental, physical and energetic attachments with you from another person, thing or situation that is tying and bringing you down.

How To Let Go

Sometimes, you just need to let go of certain people, situations, and relationships because it’s best for you.

There are times when I just want to be left alone in my room thinking about the decision that I have made if it was right or not. Deep inside, I know that letting go was the best option because it was getting heavier and painful each day as I wished and hoped for them to move forward and express how they feel for me.

If you want to let go but you feel scared or confused, you can always follow these (5) five things:

1.) Express how you feel.

You can express how you feel with them. If they are not present anymore, you can write everything in your journal. You can even cry yourself out in your room or shower as it will wash away the tears running down on your cheeks and it will make you feel fine.

2.) Talk to the right people.

Look for people who you can trust. Letting go does take time and effort because you have to look and talk to the right people who can help you with making decisions. Even though you already know what’s best for you but the thought of letting go can be confusing and scary. 

3.) Listen to your heart and mind.

You don’t always need to rely on people you can trust. You also have to learn how to listen to yourself. You have to stop and listen to your heart and mind. You have to ask yourself whether it’s best for you to hold on or to let go.

4.) Don’t let it attach to you.

Most of the time, it is difficult to let go because you still have that attachment with them whether emotional or spiritual. This can only make you feel a bit terrible because you can still remember them. You can set an intention that you will want to release your attachment with them.

5.) Always stay present.

Sometimes when we think about letting go, we tend to think about the things that had happened in the past. You must stay in the present moment but also think about the future. Instead of deciding quickly on letting go, you have to be certain that you are not living in the past. You can always try to evaluate the situation before you make decisions because we might regret it.

What Happens When You Let Go?

When you let go of anything else other than love, you will feel a bit scared, confused and uncomfortable but you will feel lighter as the days go by because you know it’s right for you. 

When you let go of love, you will feel miserable and in pain unless you have never invested in the connection. It hurts to let go of someone you love, especially when there is still love left in the connection. It even hurts to let go of someone you love when you know that it is still worth fighting for.

However, if the relationship does not help you grow and become a better person, you know you had made the right decision. If the relationship only made you feel stuck and hopeless, you know it was right to let go. And you will still feel that pain, but you know it’s the best decision you have made.

When you let go, you feel and become free.
When you let go, you feel somewhat independent.
When you let go, you are more intuned with what you really want in life.

When you let go, you feel independent and strong.
When you let go, you respect and value yourself.
When you let go, you live the life that you really want.

What happened to mine?

Over and over, I have been through a series of rejection and hardships. My journey has been quite painful and difficult. These experiences had me thinking of how worthless or unloved I am but I have learned a lot of lessons along the way. I just need to accept and move on. I learned to love myself even more.

I learned that if we are meant to be with each other, they will come to me and we will be with each other in the end. For now, I don’t need to wait for them. I have to think for myself. I have to focus on myself. I have to take better care of myself. I have to love myself more than anyone had ever loved me and anyone that can love me in the future.

Even though if I feel alone after I had let go of the person that I love, I still need to move forward with love and forgiveness. There is no other way for me to do but to move forward because I am already in rock bottom and there is no other way but to go up again.

If you are like this, know that you can decide to be happy again but you don’t need to do it right away. You have to fully heal yourself. You have to fully love yourself. It’s not that simple but I believe that you can do it. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here reading this article. Only people who read my blog are determined on letting go and healing themselves because they know it’s the right thing for them. 

Always remember…

Whatever happens, you don’t ever let go of something or someone if you only feel pressured. You don’t let go if there is something or someone worth fighting for. You don’t let go if you have a mutual love for each other. You don’t let go if you know if it is good for you in the long run.

You only let go of the things, people and relationships that no longer serve you. It doesn’t have to be toxic ones but you will know which ones to let go because again, you know what is best for you. Letting go can be the hardest part of the change but it’s worth it. Just remember that you are the only one who can decide which ones to let go and when to let go. 

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Eleanor Wabe is the creator behind The Eleanor Journal, a digital platform of stories about personal growth, mental health, self-improvement, spiritual growth & self-care to help uplift your body, mind, soul, and heart.

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